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It’s December and borderline frigid outside… but I’m thinking lemonade. While 2016 has been less than a banner year, it’s all but over and it’s time to move on. As I contemplate what to carry into the new year as foundational for getting more out of life, my thoughts center on two simple questions, “what essential lessons did I learn and what did I do to learn them?”

What are some key things I did?

  • The best thing I did was delete the Facebook and Messenger apps off of my phone. A few weeks later, I limited myself to no more than 15 minutes daily on FB, and found that many days I didn’t even check FB.
  • I started reading books, blogs, etc., and taking courses relative to my profession (technology and information security)… humbling and enlightening.
  • Reconnected with some co-writers and added a couple of new ones. There is a fair amount of lemon squeezing that needs to be done to get back to writing with consistency again.
  • Stopped being so hard on myself when I didn’t accomplish an objective.
  • I took a week off to go to the beach and unplug.
  • I took a week off to visit with my mother, an aging widow coming to terms with mortality.
  • Started meeting with a financial planner to build a framework and get my “affairs in order”.

So what did I learn?

  • Noise is noise, and distractions lead to more distractions.
  • Knowledge spurs creativity.
  • Nothing worthwhile is easy, not much that’s easy is worthwhile.
  • Focusing on what I do get done helps me enjoy the accomplishments.
  • I need to get more comfortable with downtime.
  • I need to live more for today, enjoy nice things in life more often and more spontaneously.

What can I carry into 2017?

  • It’s time to expunge even more noise and make more music.
  • Information Security is the new “Internet Bubble”, keep learning.
  • Take more chances with putting songs into the wild and let people hear what I’m about.
  • Do more getaway weekends.
  • Take a two week vacation from work, with at least one week being away from home.
  • Visit Mom more often.
  • Don’t let up on setting goals, but tweak those to do lists as necessary.
  • Sip lemonade… even when it’s cold outside.

Dedicated to Lacey, our Yorkie who left us one year ago today and I’ve missed every day since <3

Never Forget

I’m not one to often contemplate the past, whether good or bad. No one knows how much time we each have left, so I do my best to look ahead. This is not to say I don’t reminisce about good times, momentous occasions and celebrations of victory, life and even death. Maybe it’s because woven into the fabric of… Continue Reading

Before It’s Time

Ever have an “oh no” moment, like being away from home and closing the car door and seeing keys hanging in the ignition? It’s embarrassing, maddening, but not that big a deal once the locksmith comes to collect a fee for retrieving the keys w/o having to break the window. Not long ago, I was about to recline on… Continue Reading

Time Away

A panicked cry, a frozen moment, a desperate drive, ending with the pain of loss. It happened so fast, we miss our sweet Yorkie so much. Deep heartbreak, just a few days before a Christmas I now couldn’t wait to be over, so I could get back to a “normal” routine. But a steady stream of… Continue Reading

I’ll Meet You There

To agree to disagree, a staple of society and democracy. To do nothing about the root of these disagreements, however, is irresponsible and unproductive. Given solutions to issues are infrequently built on black and white answers, compromise is often the only silver bullet to resolution. How we’ve gotten to the level of divisiveness that all but takes compromise off… Continue Reading

Reinvent the Wheel

Ever heard or said, “no need to reinvent the wheel”? In concept this makes sense, but in context, perhaps worth a second thought? The wheel enables much, from transporting things that would otherwise be carried to automation with gears, wheels on axels make life easier. Might be a stretch, but if i look at the wheel metaphorically, compared to… Continue Reading


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Different Things

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Lesson | Lessen

Seems the more I live, the more I appreciate simplicity. From art to food to how I approach every day. The first chapter of “On Writing Well” (W. Zinsser) focuses on simplicity, and been resonating within my thought process for a couple of weeks now. Consciously eliminating clutter, whether writing or relaxing, is rewarding. It’s amazing how well… Continue Reading

Fresh Start

It’s time to cook up a new web presence, not because I’m all that motivated… let’s just say “technical difficulties” from aging software is forcing my hand. But hey, it’s a new season, Fall, and a new month, October, so why not! Life is full, so much better than I deserve. We’re well into our 2nd… Continue Reading